Good job going for your own build. It's more expensive, but it's the only to get exactly what you want for the kind of riding you have in mind, and it's really satisfying. My two cents about mechanical brakes...
I have five bikes, including a V20c and S30, and run mechanicals on all but the mountain bike because I don't love bleeding hydraulic brakes (I know how, and I have all the stuff, but it can be messy and tedious). The reliable simplicity of mechanicals is nice. I've been using TRP Spyre C calipers for a while, and people often compare them to the Avids on your list in terms of weight and performance. The TRPs have been fine, though hydraulics do definitely provide more stopping power with less lever effort. I get away with the difference partly because I only weigh 130 lbs.
Recently I built up a new gravel bike and bought new brake calipers because the old frame was post-mount while the new frame was flat-mount. Instead of sticking with the TRPs, I decided to go for a brake upgrade with Grotac Equals available from Velo Orange. At $365 for a set, they are more expensive, but wow, the stopping power! Not quite hydraulic level, but noticeably better than the TRPs. Well built, the same weight, simpler to set up, and the kit comes with everything you need--bolts, cables, housing, good directions. I'm not trying to make you spend more money, but to me, good brakes have always been worth some expense. They are one of those parts that often stays on a bike long term (we all love to upgrade wheels, cranks, and derailleurs, but headsets and brakes? Not so much). The initial cost of good-but-pricey brakes stings a little at first, but fades over time and eventually disappears, while over all those years, you get to enjoy the benefits of better stopping power. I have a feeling that a set of Grotacs will find their way onto my V20c sometime in 2025.
Happy building.