IMO, you want to stick with the stock chain stay. I'm 6' with a 33" inseam and run the Medium stay and was OK with the stock.
I went through the same fitting process with bars and reach. First, I would take the plunge and cut the steerer tube and lower the bars. Trust me, it will be OK.
Next, you can probably slide the slider out beyond '0' just make sure there is enough in beyond the clamping point.
Bars , bar angle and brake lever position is where I played with a lot.
Narrower bars are better in you have the room, and you do. I had On One Midge,
https://www.planetx.co.uk/i/q/HBOOMI/on-one-midge-handlebar
Much better than stock but I still wanted narrower and finally scored a set of Origin8 Gary bars in 31.8, the old style and they are perfect. Search this site on Handlebars and you will find a lot of info. The other thing is brake lever position. If you change the bars, dont wrap them yet. Ride, adjust bar angle/ brake lever position, ride some more. When you are happy, then wrap. I carried allen wrenches with me for a week till I was sure I was happy and havent adjusted since.
Heres my current setup with the Stem slammed, Gary bars and Med chainstay