I don't know how new you are to these brakes, but some of this comes down to developing an unconscious sense of how your brakes modulate--that through some trial and error, along with time on the bike, you intuitively figure out how much input your brakes need at the lever for a given situation.
For example, Shimano brakes tend to have less modulation than SRAM brakes. Some people prefer Shimano's more immediate power, like a switch turning on, with just a little single-finger squeeze at the lever. Other people find Shimano brakes to be too "grabby" and prefer SRAM's more progressive modulation. Many riders simply shrug and say, "I'll get used to whatever brakes are on my bike," which is true enough.
On my mountain bike I recently went from Shimano to Formula brakes. The Formulas are even more progressive than SRAM brakes, so it took me a while to adapt my braking style. But I got there eventually, and don't even think about it anymore. If I were to go back to Shimanos, I would probably spend my first few rides skidding too much, but would eventually readjust how I use the levers.