Well after several weeks of off and on piddling with inner tubes in multiple ways, I decided that route was more trouble than it was worth, even though several configurations provided really good pneumatic suspension for my head.
However, none met all of my goals: better visibility; get head more vertical; get those troublesome lower cervical/upper thoracic vertebral spines comfortable; and of course better vibration and shock damping for the ol' noggin.
So I took a different route, and I'm pretty darn happy with the results. Not ecstatic, mind, but happy enough to be excited.
I ordered a couple of Ventisit headrest pads and a neck roll, and after trying them in different ways here is what met all the above goals (i'm glad 'not goofy looking' was not one of the goals!):
Inside the stock sock are the two stock pads; added inside to the lower front is a 10 x 15 x 4cm ventisit pad. A buckle/velcro strap holds the neck roll in place. Under the upper end of the seat pad is another 10x15x4 headrest pad, cut to size and held together w zip ties (the headrest pads come from ventisit zip tied in the back to hold them together).
This provides support to the upper back under the seat pad and a smooth transition to the vertical. The drop off from the top of the seat pad to the ventisit pad inside the sock gives both space and support to the C7-T1 vertebral spines.
The neck roll is adjustable on the fly just by rolling it up or down a bit depending on whether i'm scooched way down in the seat or up more to bridge etc, and gets my head more vertical and i can see way better.
Most importantly, it provides vibration and shock damping to the base of my skull at least 90% as good as my best inner tube config. And will be cool in summer, whereas the inner tubes promised to be hot and sweaty in the summer heat, not to mention needing occasional reinflating.
I agree it's not the coolest looking thing ever, but i now, as a short person, finally have full access to the comfort of the Vendetta as well as full road visibility, and my head is not so far tilted back that the air attack shield acts as an air brake
Check marks: all 4 of my goals for the neck rest. Bonus: Ventisit coolness for the neck and skull base.