Do the paths you ride have much puncture risk? I have a couple of roads I ride on that are major puncture risk. Without tubeless with sealant, I am puncturing on them every 3-4 times I ride them. If I did not have a big puncture risk, I would avoid sealant or run the minimum I can get away with. If my punctures were rare, I would never run a tube with sealant in it (I have never run a tube with sealant even with a high puncture risk!!)... just fit a new tube when the puncture rarely happens... and you don't lose the speed from sealant sloshing around in the tube. My experience with tubeless is that you need some sealant in to seal the tyre. I tried running tubeless without sealant at one point and lost air very quickly... like 100->50psi in a few hours. Barely enough time to ride on it. These days I run 30mL sealant which is enough to seal the tyre without starting to slow the rolling resistance much.
As for getting the tyre to seal.... I have a large air compressor (My other hobby is cars and I do a lot of work wtih my cars using is) that I use with stubborn tyres. That works well. I do need a better inflator attachment as it is a bit fiddly using the Schrader adapter... but it works. Have you tried using soapy water to lubricate the tyre on the rim which may allow you to position better and the soap may have a sealing effect also? I would also try fitting with a tube and putting out in the sun. That should stretch the tyre to the rim shape. The problem with folding tubeless tyres is they have creases that can be hard to seat. Trying to iron out the creases and shape it to the rim would probably help. If that doesn't work, get a schrader adapter and locate a large air compressor. I would bring the sealant with you also..... Once you have it sealed with sealant, and can keep it with pressure for a few rides, the tyre should shape itself to the rim, and you will probably be fine with a normal pump after that.
As for getting the tyre to seal.... I have a large air compressor (My other hobby is cars and I do a lot of work wtih my cars using is) that I use with stubborn tyres. That works well. I do need a better inflator attachment as it is a bit fiddly using the Schrader adapter... but it works. Have you tried using soapy water to lubricate the tyre on the rim which may allow you to position better and the soap may have a sealing effect also? I would also try fitting with a tube and putting out in the sun. That should stretch the tyre to the rim shape. The problem with folding tubeless tyres is they have creases that can be hard to seat. Trying to iron out the creases and shape it to the rim would probably help. If that doesn't work, get a schrader adapter and locate a large air compressor. I would bring the sealant with you also..... Once you have it sealed with sealant, and can keep it with pressure for a few rides, the tyre should shape itself to the rim, and you will probably be fine with a normal pump after that.