It was awkward going so slow on it while my friend tried to keep up
yes, speed is actually a stabilizer for the bike. i think i would qualify that to mid range speed is a stabilizer for the bike high speed is not a destabilizer, but the bike, just like most bikes,( but maybe a wee bit more) is increasingly sensitive to inputs at speeds over 35 mph.
however, in my view one of the great v20 epiphanies is the art of low speed riding. i often ride with guys who are just not fast. nor do they want to be. 12-14 mph is what they like to ride. so then i decide what i am going to ride with them to go that speed. often that is a trike, or the t50 of the sofrider. but, (except for frankentrike) that means i am riding a bike that weighs 10 more lbs than the v. who said i wanted to work harder to go slower?
so riding the v at 10-14 is actually quite nice. BUT, remember i ride with a wedge, so i am not laying down. i have this nice upturn at the end of the seat that makes my head and shoulders more upright. (yes know n+1 buy an s 40 for slow rides LOL) this actually is great practice because that is the ideal speed to work on leg steering.
i don't mean no hands, because i suck at that, but i do mean directing the bike primarily with your legs and a slow but deliberate pedaling motion, and lots of coasting. and practicing one handed riding. this is all more data for the brain to log and use for your fast riding.
i think there is a learning watershed when your body accepts that you actually have four steering and stabilization contacts with the bike not two, i.e. your hands AND your feet help you steer. this is quite different than a classic road bike where you steer with your arms, and stabilize with your arms and your seat between your legs more than your feet. bmx and freestylers understand foot and hand control better than most , and modern downhillers also have more and more of that.
low speed control and relaxing riding control are essential to high speed thought. you really just have to get used to coasting 80% of the time, and your friend will complain about your loud freewheel.